What kind of an abuser is this man?

Been with him off and on 5 years...Verry Very bad temper..always thinks Im uptosomething..dont want me tohave friends..even gets mad when I talk tomy daughter...wants to hear everything...has bad mood swings..UNPREDICTABLE...when he does...he picks fights..I dont have to even doanything..throws things in my face...very bad bad temper...Gets mad a tnothing....likewalking on egg shells...I have to watch what ...seems tobe jelous of my30 year old son...ifI talk to another...I mean femalefriends...and seem tobe laughing and haveing a good time...wow...its badwants toknow my every moveYells horrible at me...not really hit me but has grabbed my arm....THE LIST GOES ON...but what I do not understand is that he is so good in other ways...gets me coffee...picks me flowers caters tome...I dont get it Is he being good in other ways to keep me in his web?...He moved very fast to make sure we were a item when we met.He has alot of anger in him...His childhood seeing his parents...would he everchange...seems like he doesnt realizehe is mean...my keyboard is sticking...so please look over it